10 Tips for Surviving the NICU as a Single Mom
Seriously, hats off to you Taylor! I am just going to be blunt here, I am extremely dependent on John Durfee. I am my own person, I loved having a career, I am a feminist, but I need him. I rely on him, physically, mentally, emotionally. He is my best friend and the main reason I was able to get through some really difficult times in the NICU. Taylor, you are a bada$%! When I was looking for guest bloggers during Prematurity Awareness Month, I really wanted to feature writers whose story was different than mine, who had a different perspective than my own. I have one other preemie mama friend who is single (she adopted her niece) and often feel like she is on an island within an island. I hope Taylor's advice can help other preemie mamas who happen to be single help navigate through some rocky waters, and also to let you know that you are not alone. We appreciate you sharing your advice Taylor! - Stephanie
...my doctor calmly stated with a firm stare. Those aren’t exactly the first words you want to hear as soon as your baby enters the world. But there I was, bound to the hospital bed by IV bags and wires, trying helplessly to get a look at my sweet, tiny newborn baby – Grace – who was being hooked up to a CPAP machine. The sunken hole in her chest where her lungs were supposed to be filling was deep, and barely moving.
When I finally got into the NICU to see her again, I lost it completely. Hooked up to two different machines, a feeding tube in her mouth, five leads attached to her body – she was laying there alone, helplessly, without me. I must have been standing there crying hysterically for a good thirty minutes before a nurse could even approach me with a box of tissues. When I finally pulled it together (somewhat), she showed me how to open the isolette. I instantly put my finger on Grace’s tiny, soft, perfect hand – and her little fingers immediately wrapped tightly around it back.
I knew that I would be going through my pregnancy – and motherhood – alone, but the moment was finally here. Grace was here. And I was the only person she had. The next 10 days in the NICU with Grace were the longest days of my entire life. Despite how hard they were, though, I can promise you this: Being there as a single mom for Grace in the NICU made my love for her grow tenfold – and it was the most rewarding experience I’ve ever had.
If you’re a single mom to a preemie in the NICU, here are my top 10 tips for making it through – because yes, you absolutely can do it too!
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